Is it better to surround yourself with people who are better than you, or worse off than you?
Take for example the adag - in the land of blind men, the one-eyed man is king.
Similarly, Garfield once said of Odie, "If you want to appear smarter, hang around someone stupider." But on the other hand, Newton (or was it Merton?) once said, "If I have seen farther, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants."
Should we surround ourselves with giants in order to see farther? Or would we see just as far if we were surrounded by midgets who we could see over?
Please weigh in on this.
I ask because a friend is considering moving to the edge of a meth-fueled trailer park and we are trying to decide if it makes him white-trash by association, or classy by comparison.
As with most questions in life, there is no real answer here. But let’s bring it back to me since I am my favorite subject.
When I was in college I dated a guy who, my friends later advised, was quite the megalomaniac player. Looking back, I guess that was the real reason that I felt so confident when I was with him. It lends a nice dynamic to a relationship when you can fall asleep every night knowing you are better than the other person.
On the flip side, I had to get my first STD test because of him. So there are plusses and there are negatives. (I'm kidding - I've never had an STD. Give me a break.)
Multiply this scenario by 1000 and we have my friend’s current situation. There are literally hundreds of STD tests waiting to happen, right outside your front door. Would it be nice to walk outside the trailer door every morning, stretch, brush the hypodermic needles off the makeshift porch and pick up your newspaper like a king overlooking his land? It sure would. But science proves it’s only a matter of time before you join everyone else for Friday Night Animal Torching. That’s how all great empires fall – when their king is mistaken for a stray dog by a raging methhead.
So my vote here is – people rise to the level of expectation. Surround yourself with better as you’ll eventually assimilate. Always, always go bigger. And that’s a rule I apply to anything